Yes, I plan on getting married.

As my first post I felt it was important to clear this up.

I have met the love of my life, and it’s only a matter of time now. However, I am not here to talk about that right now. I actually believe that once you really don’t care if you ever get married, and you mean it. That is when your life as a woman will change.

I am here to talk all about the fun and not so fun part of the journey leading up to finding love, and more importantly finding yourself.

I wanted to start this conversation to speak on all of the things I have learned over the course of my 20’s into my 30’s, and where all that good advice I am always giving those closest to me comes from. It comes from my personal dating trials and tribulations, as well as the countless amazing women I have encountered while living in Chicago the last 12 years. During this precious time in our lives we aren’t only trying to find ourselves by moving to the city with millions, we are also assuming we will also meet the love of our lives (by 30 of course) and get married, have kids and well you know have it all figured out. I don’t know about you but my life doesn’t look like that, and I’m 33. What I have learned is that is ok, more than ok….perfect, just the way it is.

I hope to discuss the crazy lies we tell ourselves when we are in, and out of relationships. I feel this self dialogue we all have holds us back from not only meeting the right mate, but also holds us back emotionally, personally and professionally. I don’t have it all figured out, no one does. I did take a different path than the one I thought I was required to take in my life, and I have never been happier, so how does that work? I hope to explore that here.